Friday, January 23, 2015

Living (and loving) with ADD

I've never posted about this before. I've never actually talked much about it before, even to people who know me well. My blog, my rules. I live with attention deficit disorder (ADD) every day.  Some days are a struggle. Some days are easier than others. Some days I can almost sense the emotional activities before they even begin. Some days are loud, others are quiet and solemn — almost to the point that I think something is wrong. Other days are high energy and all over the place and I can't keep up.

I live with ADD every day.

I do not have ADD.

 My husband also lives with ADD every day — his ADD.


What prompted me to finally start writing about this topic and about my marriage was a recent article that came across my Facebook feed, 20 Things to Remember if You Love a Person With ADD.

I particularly related with the statement, "True love is unconditional, but ADD presents situations that test your limits of love."
 
 
Our love has been tested in the last three years more than I care to admit. I'm not sure how much I will share on my blog, but I do know that writing is helpful and therapeutic for me. I do know that I want my husband to be comfortable with what I write and share in this space. 
 
Sarah Markley is a blogger that I was introduced to years ago via another blog and she lives with a spouse with ADD also. Her post What to do: Living with an ADD Spouse is bookmarked. When I struggle with love and marriage is messy and frustrating and sad, I always find my way back to her blog. 

So, here I am. Trying to make sense of it all get through our days with a little grace and a lot of love. We struggle. We love. We battle. We endure. 
 
 


Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. - 1 Corinthians 13:7
 
 



Wednesday, January 21, 2015

What I Wore

This weekend I celebrated a great friend's baby sprinkle. She is due with a sweet little boy next month and I couldn't be happier for her little family to expand. 

I had been on a hunt for a great pair of red pants, not just since Valentine's Day is coming, but because I got rid of my super cool red boot leg pants in a spring cleaning incident. So disappointed. Do you ever feel really energized to fill the donation bags that you sometimes get rid of something you wish you hadn't? All.the.time.

Old Navy had the entire store on sale this past weekend and I got my red pants (with a $10 off coupon too!) and I really love the fit and feel of them.



My daughter took this pic of me with my I-phone. She was so proud of herself! 


The pearl necklace is one of my favorite pieces. I bought it years ago from Forever 21. They have the best prices on their accessories! Similar here.  
The top is new from Very Jane. I love the online boutique. This top has a gold zipper in front and anther in back that I like and the white sheer is attached. It's one of my new favorite tops! I get their updates on Facebook and I'm addicted! At this moment I've got three pieces in my cart ready for checkout.
The pants are Old Navy exact here.
The booties are Payless similar here.

Happy Wednesday. I'm linking up with the Pleated Poppy.

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Mid Month Confessions

Today I'm linking up with Sam and Scout and Notes from the Nelsons to share my less than perfect moments from the last month.


{one}
So, we've been having some trouble getting Molly to sleep in her big girl bed. At first we stuck to our guns and while one of us lays with her in her bed, let her cry a bit and console her. Then, we caved. We let her sleep in our bed. I wanted her next to me. I wanted to snuggle her and wake up next to her. I know it sounds crazy after all the work we've been putting into bedtime, but hey, this is confessions!

{two}
I watch reality TV, like, sometimes too much. Some of the shows I watch are the Keeping Up With the Kardashians, Khloe and Kourtney (Kardashian) Take the Hamptons, True Tori, The Bachelor, Donnie Loves Jenny and I love the Real Housewives of New Jersey. I also love watching HGTV and sometimes feel so connected to the hosts of the shows, like I could have a real conversation with them. I actually feel connected to so many celebrities that I follow them on Instagram and "like" pictures of their homes, clothing, children and lavish lives.

{three}
I don't wash my hair every day. I do shower every day and shave my legs every day, even in the wintertime.

{four}
I leave dirty dishes in the sink a couple nights a week. I leave wet laundry in the washing machine more than I'd actually like to admit. Sometimes it's because I forget. Other times it's because I'm too lazy to walk down the stairs to the basement and switch them from the washer to the dryer.

{five}
I can't remember the last time I washed my car. It might have been three years ago!

{six}
I have vacuumed my car though. We live out of my car in the summer with all our frequent beach trips, so sand is usually everywhere! You know what else is usually everywhere? Plastic toys. Princesses. Pieces of snacks. Sippie cups. Hats. Shoes. Wipes. You get the picture! Please tell me you can relate?

{seven}
Tonight I'm going out to dinner with my friend and her kids. I'm so excited to spend time together, bit I'm super excited that I don't have to make dinner. I hate making dinner! I hate thinking about what to make for dinner.


Wanna join in the confession making fun? Don't forget to head over to see the others linking up and confessing their deep, dark secrets!

Monday, January 5, 2015

hello {back to} work

It's Monday and I am back at work after having almost two weeks off. It was a break filled with lots of friends and family, frequent naps, long, lazy mornings in our pajamas, and a few fun activities. I felt like most days I was in the kitchen constantly cleaning up from preparing some sort of meal, picking up after another one of my daughter's kitchen paint parties, or cleaning up bits of Playdoh off the floor.



All in all I had a lovely rested break and I am looking forward to being back in the routine. It's Monday and I'm linking up with Lisa Leonard for some hellos.

Hello chilly weather this week.
It was warmer (in the 60s) yesterday but we are going to have a bitter cold week this week and could get a couple inches of snow.

Hello hat, scarf and gloves.
Molly and Lillian (our newest addition to the "girls club") both got beautiful homemade, knitted hats from Aunt Michelle for Christmas. It is going to look great with her purple puffy coat this winter.


Hello crisp new black pants for back to work and a new top courtesy of my little addiction to Very Jane. Have you checked them out? Loving the boutique-inspired clothes and the great deals they have!

Hello new makeup courtesy of a Sephora gift card for Christmas.

Hello pretty new pink 2015 calendar that  I am filling with meetings and important dates.

Hello soup for dinner.

Hello new Bachelor. Are you going to watch tonight? I haven't watched a season in so long but I feel compelled to watch the small town farm boy they are referring to as Prince Farming.

Have a great week!

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Big girl. Big changes.

Over the Christmas/New Year break my little girl entered into some real big girl territory. It's quite sad, actually, but for us it was time. And after all, I can't make time stand still and keep my little girl little forever, unfortunately!



Exhibit one, a new booster seat for the car, since Molly no longer fit into her old car seat. We had put it on our baby registry before Molly was even born at the recommendation of a friend. It was a Britax and it served us well for over three years, albeit heavy and not so easy to install into other cars. By the time she was nine months old she was using it and now, as my girl approaches four years old (not until May) it was certainly time for the upgrade. We had loosened the straps to the bitter end and it was getting too tight on her. She would not even fit into the seat with her winter coat on, which apparently you are not supposed to do anyway.

We had looked around a bit at reviews on the Internet and had received some advice from my good friend who just purchased a booster seat for her daughter, and my sister in law who has been through the booster seat upgrade three times with all of my nephews.

We purchased the Evenflo Maestro booster seat from Babies R Us. It was a great price and had some good reviews. The seat offered harness straps (many of the boosters did not) which I certainly wanted for extra safety. (At about 35 pounds I am not ready to move her entirely to seat belt straps yet.) We can eventually remove them and use a seat belt with the seat when the time is right. We liked the cup holders for car rides with sippie cups and snacks. Wait...don't all car rides include sippie cups and snacks?! The seat was super easy to install (I even did it myself!) and the straps adjust really easy as well.



Exhibit two, a big girl (twin) bed. Up until earlier this week Molly was still sleeping in her crib. She had never tried to climb out and willingly went in for bed time and naps, so we saw no need to move her into a bed before it was necessary. She was however getting taller and it seemed to me that it might be time for the switch when I heard her hit her head a few times during naps.

We had purchased the bed frame — a vintage metal day bed complete with chippy white paint and gold balls on each corner — from Craigslist. I have found some great pieces on Craigslist over the years. This piece was purchased from a woman whose daughter used the bed from the time she was about Molly's age until recently when she became a teenager and had wanted to upgrade to a queen. The bed was in great shape and I loved the vintage look of it. We got a new mattress and new sheets. We let Molly pick them out at Target and she chose Frozen sheets, of course! 



We thought all of this — plus the sound machine and lavender spray on the sheets — would make the transition to the bed easy, but let's just say that after a week...bedtime is still a work in progress. Any tips for making bedtime easier?


Thursday, January 1, 2015

New Year. New Word.

Happy New Year friends!

2015 is here and a new year is upon us. A new year brings us time to reflect on the past and look toward to the future. A time to set new goals and resolve to better ourselves. I'm excited and anticipate some exciting changes in my life this year. More on that later.

We rang in the new year by dancing, eating and laughing in our new Thai lounge pants at Mom's house. We ate seafood, sipped champagne, had fun with our new selfie stick, and upon the stroke of midnight banged pots and pans screaming happy new year. (I'm pretty sure that we were all asleep by 12:15 a.m. Well, except for Santi who is still dealing with jet lag from the trip to Thailand.) Molly even made it to experience the ball dropping and festivities that commence a new year.



For the past few years I've chosen a word for year versus committing to a resolution. I'm also a big fan of setting monthly goals rather than committing to a resolution that I will most likely fail at before my Birthday. Past words of the year include acceptance, less, simplify and balance. (I think I may have picked balance more than once.)

This year I'm picking a word again — forgive.


Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven. 
-Luke 6:37







Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Sisters

It is 10:34 p.m. It is Saturday night. I am here, snuggled in cozy pajamas in my Long Island home while listening to the sound of crackle of the fire and the sirens from a cop show my husband is watching on tv — and I think about my sister. My little sister is 8,645 miles away. (It's true. I Googled How far is Bangkok from Blue Point?)

My sister is worldly and beautiful and bright. She is spending the holidays this year in Thailand with her beau and his family.

She posted this pic from Suan Soan Pradipat Beach on Christmas Day and a big grin appeared on my face as I thought about her. And then this one. Woah!

And then I read another young women's blog post, 50 Things I Want For My Little Sister, and thought about the things I want for my little sister...

More time to write. When my sis puts the pen to the paper or writes in a card, amazing thoughts appear as beautiful, heartfelt words.

Patience — because I want this for every woman in my life.

Extra money for frequent trips to Paris so that she feels fulfilled in her visits and doesn't want to move there. As it is, she lives an hour and a half away from me and that's enough for me.


Belly-aching laughter. Cause it's the best kind!

A deep connection to my daughter. I love the love that my daughter and her aunt share. It's a special bond. She is her Godmother. She is her sissy. She is her auntie. They play lots of pretend games that are silly and fun. They do things together that mommy and daughter wouldn't do that make it special time for the two of them. Sissy teaches Molly yoga poses and dance moves and the words to songs on the radio.



Good food. I'm not a foodie, but I know how much my sister enjoys cooking and eating and I think that is wonderful. I hope she always enjoys home-cooked meals and preparing them. I admire people that can do that. And sissy makes some good meals!



Really great conversations with truly inspiring people.

More memories created with her one and only sister. (That last one if really for both of us!)


I wish all of this for my sister and so much more. I adore her. I love her more than she will ever know. I wish her safe travels home from her adventures in Thailand and cannot wait to ring in 2015 with her.

And now it is 11:08 a.m. on Tuesday and I am ready to hit the publish button. My sis is in the air. I pray deeply that she will arrive home safe and sound. I cannot wait to see her. Love you sis!












Wednesday, December 24, 2014

What I Wore 12.24

I was really excited to get dressed up for my last day of work yesterday. We have a big celebration in our office that includes lots of food and goodies, followed by a hysterical round of yankee swap where the ($10) gifts range from games to booze to a nose that squirts green body wash. Then we play some games, have some laughs together with the entire staff in our department and wish each other well for an almost two-week break.

I am so excited and looking forward to reconnecting with some friends and family over the break, a few new local activities with Molly, and gearing up for a new year with some rest and relaxation.




My top is new and I couldn't wait to pair it with something red. It's from Ann Taylor Loft, similar (and on sale!) here
The skirt is about three years old from JCrew, similar here and here
Tights and necklace are from Target, similar (and super pretty) here.
Shoes are from Payless, exact here


I loved this outfit! I felt so feminine and pretty all day! 

I love to show teeth when I smile, but when I wear red lips I feel the need to have a pucker smile. 



Happy Christmas Eve!  

Linking up with the Pleated Poppy for some fashion inspiration.